Therapist: Managing Your Child’s Tantrums

How do you manage your child’s temper? Managing your kid’s temper can be challenging but it is a must.


The role that every parent plays in the life of a child is significant. The kind of person your kid will become in the future depends on how you deal with and manage him while he is still young. As much as possible, make an effort to manage and discipline your little one, especially with tantrums, while he is still in his tender years. 

Based on a recent study conducted by a therapist, your child’s upbringing can dictate his attitude and personality as he starts to grow up. Because of this, you are responsible for doing everything you can to see to it that he becomes an outstanding and excellent member of the community.

In this article, our primary focus will be about learning the different ways on how you can control your child’s tantrums. Dona Matthews Ph.D. says that “A tantrum is a vivid way to effectively communicate the frustration, anger, and powerlessness a stutterer very understandably feels.” First of all, you have to note and understand that kids with tantrums can be challenging to handle. Therefore, you may need to exert more efforts in increasing your patience in disciplining him.  Take note that there are tons of ways on how you can teach your child not to act out, especially in public. Be sure to remember the list of tips and tricks below:

Manage Time For Your Child

Are you aware that one of the reasons why your child is having tantrums is because he is looking for attention? As a parent, you have to see to it that he will get all the focus and attention from you while he is growing up. Make sure that he will not look for other avenues to get noticed. Your primary goal is to make an effort to reach out to him at all times. You must learn as early as now that no amount of money can ever give you a chance to buy lost times with your child. You have to allow work and business to take too much of your time. Otherwise, you may lose a good relationship with your kid, and it can be one of the causes for his tantrums. “A child who is crying is in trouble and needs your help. She is overwhelmed by strong emotions, feels helpless and alone and does not know how to calm herself down. Our job as parents is to comfort our child and help her work through her frustrations.” reminds Meri Wallace, LCSW.


Talk To Your Child Regularly And Frequently

Another thing that you need to accomplish is to establish a different kind of connection with your child, wherein he will start to listen to whatever you say. It is crucial on your part to take notice of what makes him get mad easily or makes him smile. If you want to be sure about these matters, it is best to talk to him about it. Let your child know that he can open up anything to you so that he will not become aloof or introvert. Talking to your child now and then can increase the confidence that he will have in you. Amy Przeworski Ph.D. emphasizes that “Most of the work of handling your child’s tantrums should occur at home.” As a result, he will not only learn to trust you but also respect whatever you do.

Keep Him Busy

If you do not want your child to get bored and develop a negative attitude out from it, it is best if you will enroll him in activities that can keep him preoccupied. For example, during the weekdays, you can ask him to attend tutorial classes wherein he will be taught how to increase memory retention or even get assistance for his school assignments. During summer, you can also encourage him to take up summer courses that will not only keep him busy but also improve his skills. However, the initial step that you must do is to ask him whether or not he is interested in doing all the activities that you want. Otherwise, he will only end up feeling forced to do something that he is not interested in.

Manage Temper of Your Child By Rewarding Good Deeds

Do not forget to notice all the great things that your child does in a given day or week. Give him recognition whenever he completes a task or does not embarrass himself in public. Let him know or show him how much you appreciate his attitude and personality. You have to make him remember that he will get a reward whenever he will do something that makes you proud. Of course, you must explain to him why he is getting a reward for a particular activity. Consequently, you also need to inform him that there can be something negative that may happen if he will continue to defy your parenting choices. Use positive reinforcement in the right way.


The last point to take note of is that you must never embarrass your child in public. Failure to do this can make the situation worse for you.